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John_Galt (g_brandon_martin@ureach.com) 06:00 am UTC 01/10/08 |
| In reply to: | NJC: Late night ramblings - The_wolf_with_the_red_roses 11:48 pm UTC 01/09/08 |
| I understand your frustration, and I think you understand you are going to have to deal with it by being more selective. Start out with the understanding that there are a lot of women who aren't loving in the sense you desire. It's my offensive opinion that modernity has kind of stripped a lot of women of their feminity and made their sexuality less complicated and less beautiful. Begin by excluding those girls. These girls just aren't worth your time unless they are also nurturing, loyal, virtuous, honest, caring, respectful, loving, and Jim Steinman fans. :) Here's a step-by-step approach: 1) Find a place where you'll find quality people who might share your concept of love. I recommend Christian rock clubs and Mormon hangouts. 2) Select only those who really interest you physically. You're complaining about a girl who may have settled for some play with you instead of love. Don't do the same thing to them by dating some fugly you'd never marry. 3) If you are actually following (2) it's likely that you are going to get rejected a bit, but when they do say yes, which will be more often than you think, they will usually really like you and not just be settling for play because they can't get it elsewhere. Unfortunately, many of these girls will turn out to reveal themselves as lacking in the virtues and qualities you require, but at least you started in the right place. Move on quickly. 4) Lead by example. Don't be manipulative with love, controlling, whiny, or an asshole. They should be learning from your example how to love. If you think she's doing something wrong (like being with some other dude) than tell her so right away before too much harm is done (like loosing respect for you or getting pregnant). If she doesn't listen, tell her goodbye, you wish her the best. Do not waste your time when they aren't demonstrating the virtues you are demanding. Just so that you know, this selectivity should be a turn on for the right kind of women. Every guys drooling because they are beautiful, and then you appear and say, "Okay, you may be beuatiful, but what else is there to genuinely earn my love and respect." Sorry about the girlfriend. If it makes you feel any better (and it shouldn't), what she's going through sounds like it will suck even more for her... and exponentially more when she sees you with someone who has both heart and hormones. -=John Galt=- ... who thinks it may be too late to talk Jim into supporting Ron Paul in 2008... > Long story cut short, I am sick of love being put beside > lust as if they were the same. Very rarely is love written > or shown in the media as something noble. My ex is > pregnant now (Not with my kid BTW). And now I have severed > the final strained links of our friendship because what > she has done is worng, Tell me fellow Rockman Record > posters. Am I a fool for living with for wnating a love > like that. Dose it even exsist anymore. Or will girl I > fall for think of me as just a mug with mastabation > tatooed on his head | |
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